Dying to tell you what I think of you

A friend of mine told me last night in my local about a Death Notice that appeared in Tuesday’s Irish Times, so I looked it up on online this morning. It concerned a lady from Dun Laoghaire, and gave the standard details, naming her late husband and her children, giving funeral arrangements, and asking for donations to the R.N.L.I.

And then it said this:

“Those she did not talk to
please do not attend”

Exactly like that – in italics, on two lines, as if it were a quotation from a poem or something. I thought it might be a very, very obscure religious reference – something along the lines of  “I had no truck with thee while I lived, Satan, so keep thee far from me now”, but I’ve googled it, and come up with nothing.

So it can only be the ultimate “Up Yours”. She’s saying “I don’t want any of ye I couldn’t stand turning up for free tea and sandwiches – yiz all know well who I mean”.

If you don’t believe in ghosts, then saying someting like that in your obituary notice is as near as you can get to haunting people.

I didn’t know you were allowed do it, but it might really catch on – “Mary Smith, died Tuesday, funeral Thursday, Bessie Perkins from No 23 is a cow”.

And just think, we virtual people could all do it – we could flame other bloggers, from beyond the grave.

4 thoughts on “Dying to tell you what I think of you

  1. sleepyjo

    Ha, the ultimate last word!

    This is a great post, and a GREAT idea. You spend so much of your life wasting energy on people, why have your family go on doing it after your death/

    Yet it also suggests she was a difficult or unhappy woman. So there’s a sadness to it. This touches a raw nerve for me actually. Should anyone who feels the need be able to attend a funeral?

    I wish I’d gone to Ronnie Drew’s actually, I felt quite teary looking at photos of it in the Wicklow Times today.

    Excuse the ramble…

  2. Andrew

    I like that, funerals are probably often packed out with people the deceased couldn’t stand. Irish people just love a good funeral. Telling the people you didn’t like not to bother coming is quite sensible really. And it would be liberating to know you could do it.

  3. Little Miss

    I can relate to this. When in school my best friend lost her dad and anyone who wanted to attend were allowed to leave class and get on buses the school laid on. Among those who “wanted” to attend were girls that bullied her and others she didn’t even know. This caused her additional upset on the day so I think this message is genius.

  4. tinman18 Post author

    I hadn’t even thought of something like that, Little Miss, it must have been really awful for her.


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